Thursday, December 24, 2015

Home Sweet Home for the Holidays ...

Maybe its the thought of spending the holidays alone that turns usually sane, sophisticated single adults into needy, desperate cling wrap. Yes, it's Dec. 24 (Christmas Eve) and I just peeked (peeked mind you, not scoured) the online dating site I'm currently on to see who in the world would be on there on this wonderful Christmas Eve, well, besides me (but mine is purely research and doesn't count does it?). And of course I have a theory about what kind of people are "constantly" (not peeking every now and then but on 24/7) on dating websites during Christmas. I've noticed a few similarities in those profiles -- Here they are:
  • People who have children who "sometimes live at home" or "do not live at home" -- translated by me to mean the kids are with the other parent this holiday season and the non-custodial parent is bored and lonely
  • People with no children -- translated by me to mean they don't have nieces and nephews to spoil or are cheapskates and don't spoil their nieces, nephews or friends' children
  • People who do not mention their friends in their profiles -- translated by me to mean they have NONE and that if I were to go out on a date with them, I'd be their only friend (can you say possessive?)
  • People who say they are shy and quiet but romantic -- translated by me to mean they are the freaks who catfish or will never actually get up the nerve to ask you on a date because they just like having online relationships (what the heck is that anyway?!?!)
  • People who (when asked to describe that they look for in a match) use the "no preference" button for all the questions -- translated by me to mean, they just want a warm body to call girlfriend/boyfriend
  • People who don't mention their family in their profile -- translated by me to mean they don't get along with their family (even I can get along with my family for limited amounts of time!)
The moral of this story? Be very wary of anyone who is constantly on the dating website during the holidays. 

Monday, December 14, 2015

Silent night, man-less night ...

Taking a short sabbatical for the next few weeks from online dating since its Christmas/New Years and no one but the REALLY bored and desperate are on the dating sites anyway -- begs the question why I'm on them :-) . As a special tribute to all those single ladies who will spend the holidays without a boyfriend/spouse in their life this year, I have a special Christmas gift for you. I made a song. Well, I just changed the words around to the old Christmas favorite "Silent Night, Holy Night". I figure you should find ways to count your blessings this holiday season without a significant other. Enjoy.


Silent night, man-less night
Alone at Christmas but its alright
No cheap beer in my refrigerator
Its filled with chocolate and champagne d'or
The house is clean and bright
No men's dirty socks in sight


Silent night, man-less night
No mistletoe is needed tonight
I'm in my flannel PJs, my hair is a mess
I'm petting my dog and she could care less
The house is clean and bright
No men's dirty underwear in sight


Silent night, man-less night
Calm and quiet, no screaming fight
No bad jokes, TV sports or smelly farts
Just reading a book about romance arts
The house is clean and bright
No men's dirty magazines in sight


Silent night, man-less night
Perfumed candles flickering light
I can watch what I want on my own television
Or walk around in my granny panties without someone bitchin'
The house is clean and bright
No men's dirty toothbrush in sight


Feel free to add verses ...



Monday, December 7, 2015

So many sites, so little time ...

NOTE: NO ENDORSEMENT INTENDED!

In the beginning, there were really only a few online dating sites to choose from. Now, in the United States alone there are hundreds!



1990: There were only a few dozen sites where singles could chat, be matched, browse, e-mail online. It was actually called "Cyber Dating" and you've got to watch this old video to get the idea http://www.theatlantic.com/video/index/371890/a-1990s-guide-to-cyber-dating/



Now, 25 years later we have (just to name a few in the US) hundreds:
Match
Zoosk
OurTime
eHarmony
ChristianMingle
BlackPeopleMeet
SeniorPeopleMeet
BeNaughty
MatureSingleesOnly
MatureDatingOnly
PlentyofFish
OKCupid
InternationalCupid
EliteSingles
BBWCupid (stands for Big Beautiful Women)
Badoo
Chemistry
GreenSingles
CatholicMatch
WitchDating
TattooLovers
SoundMeet
TasteBuds
DateMyPet
MatchMySign



Sure, there are dating sites for different religions, races, sexual preferences and cultures but there are also dating sites for different careers (FarmersOnly, CrewDating, etc.), politics (RonPaulSingles, TheAtlasPhere, etc.), hobbies (GamingPassions, CyclingSingles, etc.) and social classes (RightStuffDating, MillionaireMatch, etc.). And of course, we have the sites that are specifically NOT for singles wanting a date or mate at all but a hook-up (e.g. Ashley Madison and WhatsYourPrice).  No, I'm not making any of these up. However, I will say I laughed a lot (a whole lot!) when researching these sites for this blog post. Really hoping I don't run for office one day and my computer gets hacked with all these freaky online dating sites' cookies on it.



And as if we didn't have enough choice in the online dating site supermarket, we also have sites about online dating like The Online Dating Magazine (started in 2003, www.onlinedatingmagazine.com). It's enough to actually scare you off dating for a while!



Bottom line is the online dating biz is hot (sensuality and financially). According to a 2013 article by Before It's News blogger, Marty Zwilling (Founder and CEO of Startup Professionals, http://blog.startupprofessionals.com/2013/03/how-many-more-online-dating-sites-do-we.html)  only 1% of online dating start ups succeed. Thank God!


We don't need any more online dating websites. What we need are more quality men and women using the sites we already have!