Monday, March 14, 2016

You get what you pay for ...

$$$$$$$


If you read my other blog posts, you know that people can see when you look at their profile. But there is a way to avoid them knowing. Of course, you have to pay for that privacy privilege. Oh no, that $200+ a year subscription you pay for when you sign onto a dating site is just the basics to get you in the door. My momma always said, "you get what you pay for" and "nothing in this life is free."

I know there are free dating sites out there but would you really trust them to produce quality people? Maybe, but I'm looking for my soulmate and he better not be stingy with money! I mean, think about it. If I meet a guy who is too cheap to spend a few hundred bucks a year to meet me, how cheap is he going to be on a first date?

Anyway, back to the online dating site add-ons (or up-selling as they call it in the marketing world). I don't' see why you need these if you are genuinely out there searching. There are plenty of options to choose from depending on the site you use:


Privacy -- If you don't want them to see when you have looked at them. Seriously. what are we, elementary school children? So what if they see that I viewed their profile, isn't that the point of online dating? Are you in the witness protection program or running from the law so you don't want me to see you? Well, then I don' t want you anyway, you aren't that special and all women are not stalkers.
Top of the search -- If a guy is "searching" for Ms. Right then why do I need this? Isn't he searching enough to scroll down the "matches" for 5-10 people to find me? Do I have to be right in his face upon turning on his phone and logging into his account for him to find me? He probably isn't very good at the game hide-n-seek either!
Read receipt -- Don't rush me dude, I will read that e-mail when I get to it. I don't need to pay some service fee to see when a guy opens my e-mail to him. If he never responds, that's a pretty good indication he isn't interested, huh?
Secure call -- If I have never met a guy, why do I want to have my first conversation with him over some covert phone line? This isn't the cold war and we aren't spies with burner phones.
Identification authentication -- Oh please, a really good catfisher could hack this feature with a little persistence and a fake ID. I am who I say I am and that's all I worry about.
Profile writing service -- Honestly, if a guy can't write his own profile, I don't want him. Take the time write about yourself and check your grammar -- its not that hard!



Tuesday, March 1, 2016

Brought to you by the letter F ...

This week's blog is brought to you by the letter F. What words can you think of that start with the letter F?

Friend, Find, Fabulous, Fanatic, Future, Fun, Fiscal, Frost, Fear,

F*#@!



My favorite F word is "freak." Yes, ladies and gentlemen, freaks are all around us. I just learned that I have to be much more careful about who I look at on my online dating site. Not sure why I didn't know this before but apparently, when you peruse a person's profile that person sees that you looked at it. They get a little notice in their account that says "MissABC" looked at your profile at (time, date). Whoa, hold the fone (yes, I intentionally misspelled it, it's F day remember?)!  They can see me and when I looked at them? Yes, they can and when many of these people see that someone else looked at their profile, they automatically think "ahh, someone wants me so I need to inundate them with a hundred winks, e-mails and like all of their profile photos to show them I want them too."

Well, isn't that presumptuous? Just because I look at your profile does not mean I want to spend the rest of my life with you. I've gotten some doozies from guys who I just peeked at their profile for fun (sometimes they have a photo of a dog as their profile photo and or maybe they have a sunset photo and the curiosity just gets the better of me) or sometimes their photo is really nice and I want to read the rest of their story. It does NOT mean I want to marry them tomorrow. Here is the tip of the week guys (and gals too): if a someone looks at your profile ONCE and goes days without a wink, another profile view, an e-mail or a "like" then they aren't interested. There is no need to contact them with a diatribe of worthless dribble to try and win thier love. Just chalk it up to they were curious but not that interested, shrug it off and move on before we use the word of the day on you:

FREAK